When i was young i drank,smoked and did drugs and currently am clean and don,t do any of the above. I used to get into trouble that my friends were more importand than my wife. I now have three young kids and keep on having arguments because my wife wants to go out and do what i used to do with her friends and leave me with the children. She also hides a lot of things from me and i think that it will be better that i bring up the kids myself as i dont need her and accept this situation as is. We got divorced and she came back to me because she could not cope by herself. I have custody and am also finacially secure.