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20 Feb 2009

Broody
I don' t know if I am posting in the right place but I do think my predicament is a pschological one and not physical. I have a 14 month old baby. Well I can' t call him a baby anymore, he is now a toddler, running all over the place and loving his independance. Lately I am feeling so desperate to have a small baby in my arms again but I think I am being selfish to my first born. I worry what the psychological impact would be on him. The trauma of not being my one and only etc etc. My time would have to be divided and his space being invaded would impact him quite alot. And then, I feel bad for second born to be. I would never be able to give him or her the devotion I gave my first and I feel quite bad and guilty about that. I would love my children to be close but not to the detriment of their emotional well being.
I think too much and worry too much. Is there a cure for worriers???
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Be cautious about this urge --- you don't want to end up like the mother of 14, including Octuplets, in California. Learn to enjoy your child at all his ages. Too ofren a woman who kost values the phase of total dependency of a child, tends to want a replacement infant, as soon as the child starts to walk and be independent --- that isn't a wholesome reason for having another baby. The first-born usually does feel a bit out of joint when another baby comes along, but especially with a bgger gap between them, can be recruioted to be the "Big Boy who helps look after the little one. Let's see what other readers think about the issues you raise
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