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08 Mar 2003

Hi...i am concerned about myself. I lack interest in everything. I used to be a happy, carefree person until I landed up in hospital some years ago and it changed my life forever. Whenever I am sick (eg even with a stomach bug), I lack control and my blood pressure drops, causing fainting etc. This has never happened in public, but as a result of me knowing this fact, I fear going away on holidays, far from doctors etc; fear going to shopping centres; fear flying; fear everything that could put me in a situation of no control whereby I can't get away quick enough to save me the embarrassment if i suddenly don't feel well. I find too that I am constantly tired, lack energy, can sleep for a day, wake up, go to bed again in the evening at a normal hour, and wake up the next day feeling tired again. My appetite is not that great either, I look pale, and thin most of the time. Don't exercise, live on complan for energy, and don't know how I would survive if I had kids, which my husband and I have been trying for, for over a year. This fear of "lack of control" rules my life, and makes me feel nauseous. No point in recommending a psychologist, I tried that, and ended up worse as they made me concentrate on my fears even more. Any suggestions?
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01 Jan 0001

Dear a, I'm sorry to hear that the psychologist you saw wasn't much help ; but they rally ought to b able to help here. You seem to be describing symptoms of anxiety, with phobic features, and maybe depression as well. Why not see a psychiatrist, firstly for a proper assessment of the situation to clearly identify the problem(s) that need to be dealt with ; and then o review possible treaments. Fortunately, some of the medicines used nowadays, can greatly relieve anxiety and depression symptoms, and help greatly to relieve phobias and fears ; and could help you get things back into proportion.
And if you are still interested in having kids, relieving these psych symptoms and the over-stress, can potentially help increase ertility, as well as helping you to enjoy the prospect of parenthood.
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