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20 Jun 2011

CONFUSED!
I RECENTLY MET THIS GREAT GUY &  WE''VE BEEN DATING FOR THREE MONTHS NOW BUT RECENTLY TWO COMPLETETLY DIFFERENT PEOPLE WHO DONT EVEN KNOW EACH OTHER BY THE WAY APPROACHED ME ASKING IF I KNOW THAT MY BF IS HIV+, THE ONE KNOWS THAT WE ARE INVOLVED BUT THE OTHER ONE WAS JUST MAKING CONVERSATION &  HAS NO IDEA THAT WE ARE DATING. I ASKED HIM ABOUT HIS STATUS AND HE SWORE THAT HE''S NEGATIVE. I WANT TO BELIEVE HIM BUT SOMETIMES ITS HARD. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO, I KEEP ASKING HIM TO GO TEST BUT HE KEEPS STALLING. SHOULD I BELIEVE HIM OR LEAVE HIM?
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01 Jan 0001

I can understand if you are worried - especially if you had unprotected sex with this guy. Perhaps it is good thing that you are worried. If he has nothing to hide, why wait for a test? Why would people warn you? If he knows he is positive and he is still having unprotected sex with you, it is as good as attempted murder! Start using a condom and then both of you go for the test. You can still have a wonderful sex life even if he is HIV+ by doing the right things - test and condomize! It is even possible to have a child with him... Consult immediately a doctor or clinic or phone SASHA helpline for the contact details of a professional – 0860 100 262.
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