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24 Jun 2011

Hi Doc
im involved with a married man, his wife left for another man and the interim the new guy has dumped her we have become very close and he has urged to file for the divorce, she suspects he has a girlfriend and has now told him he or his family cannot pick up his two kids from school she has been sending him nasty messages and clearly wants him back , he said he wont take her back because of her infidelities im afraid if i pursue this relationship he might go back or even worse the wife will come after me...
Please advice
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01 Jan 0001

Why did you choose to become "involved" with a married man ( especially as you already know he is entirely content to cheat on his partner, even if she has been provocatively getting herself involved with someone else and cheating on him ) ? And why did you choose to remain "involved" with him ?
She is not entitled to limit or forbid him any sort of normal access to his children, especally if she has chosen to leave him for another man. The husband should consider taking her to court for divorce, and let the judge decide on custody and access - and if this happens, the fact that he is also involved with someone else will not help him get the access or custody he wants.
I don't see how your involvement could be at all helpful to him. He should if necessary discuss his situation with a lawyer, and with a counsellor, and work out what is best for him. After the divorce, and after he has emotionally settled, he may be able to have a sincere lreationship with someone else, like you.
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