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10 Jan 2008

Dont know what to do anymore

I met this guy in August 2005, we really got together well, he has 2 daughters and I have none. Last year December 15, he sent people to pay lobola for me, and all went well, but immediately after the lobola's I have suddently changed I dont have feelings for him anymore, I dont know what happened because he is very sweet, always want to listen to what I have to say and we sit together, discuss before we would implement anything in our life.
I think its because he is too sweet always at home, does not want to mix with other men in that case just looking at me in the eye, that bothers a lot and I am afraid i will live my mother alone with no-one to be with. I am the one who is taking care of her, I am forever wondering and have even lost wait.
The other thing is his child I think I will not be able to cope with a spoilt child and if we will be in the same roof then its going to be a big problem.

Tell me what went wrong and how do I solve this, do I continue with the marriage or not.

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01 Jan 0001

He sounds like a very nice man, the sort many women would be happy to have --- is it that you perhaps find him a bit too sweet and tender, and expect him to be more assertive ? Why not see a relationship / marriage counsellor together to explore such issues before deciding about whether it would be wise to move closer to mariage ?
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