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13 Jan 2013

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Ek is getroud met ''n man wat ''n alkolis is. Vir 8 jaar het ek alles moontlik gedoen om hom te help. Ek het verskeie sielkundiges gesien,doktors ect. Ek is gedaan en wil selfmoord pleeg. Ek kan nie meer met dit saamleef nie. Ek het hom verskeie kere gesmeek vir ''n egskeiding,maar hy weier. Hy abuse my emosioneel en belowe elke keer om op te hou drink.Ek werk ongelukkig nie en het al probeer ''n werk kry sodat ek my eie inkomste kan verdien sodat ek kan uittrek. My man is welgesteld en baie bekend in ons stad. Ek steek alles weg want ek wil nie he mense moet iets agterkom nie want dan kan hy belangrike kliente verloor. Enige raad?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

One of the major problems with an alcoholic is that you can never do it for him - nomatter how hard you try to help, its really ultimately only HIS sincere efforts that count. His problems are HIS responsibility, not yours
IF you want a divorce, in this situation you could surely have one - its not up to him to decide whether or not you can. but the court. Get proper legal advice. Keep looking for a job for yourself, and explore whether you could stay withfriends or family until you find a job and can support yourself.
If he happens to lose clients he has so far successfully fooled into thinking he's the sort of good man he isn't, that's his fault and his problem, not yours. Get proper help for yourself - you deserve it and wil make good use of it.
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