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21 Jul 2011

Hi doc.

My boyfriend and i have been together for 9 years. We argue alot even about sex. I have to ask him for sex then he is always tired or just not in the mood. I gave birth to our baby 7 months ago. Could it be due to that cos i have put on alot of weight also. I feel so painful and sad when he refuse me sex. He said i can fin someone else and move out of the house. Is he tired of me. I love this man very much and will do anything to make our relationship work but if sex is a problem should i let it go. We are in our early 30''s.

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01 Jan 0001

Sexual concerns often present itself after the birth of the first child – it is often related to one or both of the partners having to redefine their relationship and themselves and the way they view their partners. From what I am hearing your relationship is being negatively impacted. I would suggest that you seek the assistance of a professional psychologist/social worker working specifically with sexual concerns to guide you as a couple to a more constructive level of interaction.

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