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16 Feb 2009

hectic and no guilt
This is my story:
I used to be a very faithful partner ok until my baby daddy cheated on me for about 10 times and turned around and dumped me. Got myself another man after 3 years of waiting for my ex to come back and he never did. At the beginning of our relationship things were wonderful and i thought my prayers were answered, until on his birthday whilst he was bathing - i got the shock of my life when i read sms' s on his phone - there were like 3 women that he' s affliated with - i wanted to DIE but then i decided:
I don' t have a child with him - so why get hysterical
I have been through the worst therefore i can handle this
Whatever he can do - i can do better

He prepared me 2 weeks in advance that he won' t be around for valentine' s day - so when i found out all that he' s been up to - it made sense why he wouldn' t be around so i started making plans of my own and this is how it turned out:
During the day, i had a man who took me our (picnic)
then in the evening whilst on my way to my old flame, i met another man on the road
had a wonderful love making session and yesterday I went out with the new man that i met on Valentine' s day! and guess what?
I don' t feel guilty at all! I do use protection - before i get hounded at!
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

IN your experience, do baby daddies usually behave better than this ? The very idea of a baby daddy suggests that your relationship is about sex and babies, and not a long-term loving relationship. And though I don't entirely understand your message, you seem to be describing having very casual sex with all sorts of men even those you have just met. Apart from the risk to your life such promiscuity causes ( even if you think you're using some sort of protection ) if you will sleep with almost anyone, how can you complain if your b.d does, too ?
And remember the old saying that Two Wrongs don't make a Right --- Cheating isn't any cure for being cheated.
Re-reading your message, I wonder if you are asking a question at all. It sounds more like bragging. One thing is very clear --- living life and relationships they way you are doing, never brings happiness.
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