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25 Feb 2003

Her jealous chases away my friend
I am in 18 months relationship which I believed to be based on trust, love and understandung, my girlfriend is very jealous that I am losing my best friend who donated me an organ when I was very sick and needed it (Kidney), I love my girlfriend and I do not want to loose her and my friend either, there is nothing going on between me and my friend except that we treat each other as siblings.

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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Snoopy, it sounds as if you need to sit down with your gf and talk tings through calmly. Is she young, perhaps inexperienced at relationships ? Such needless jealousy often stems from insecurity, and too often brings about exactly the situation the person is dreading.
She surely needs to understand that tis is a special and long-term friend, who literally saved your life, and that a part of this friend is, literally, both physically and emotionaly, a part of you now. And that is not going to change. Your gf needs to know that this is either something she must accept, so you can get on with the rest of your relationship with her, or, if she cannot accept it, she needs to leave the relationship and find another. Such good friends are not to be bartered away because of someone else's insecurities.
If she can't offer you the love, trust and understanding you have been offering her, then she needs to be with someone else, and you need a new gf who is more understanding and mature.
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