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05 Feb 2013

House Breaking, Knowing how they think
Hi,
Our neighbourhood has recently been perpetuated by violent house break-ins, whereby the home owners are physically harmed by the intruder.

While chatting to one of the victims they explained how he begged the attacker to “ take whatever they want and to please not hurt us!“  While this approach might help in some instances, it didn’ t in this one, where the attacker replied “ Don’ t tell me what to do… ”  and then proceeded to stab him with the intent of killing him. Apparently there was so much hate in his attackers’  eyes, a complete stranger. One could rationalise that the reason for all this hate could be due to you living a better life than they are (perhaps they live in a shack somewhere without electricity and you live in a lap of luxury). But how could they become so consumed with hate for someone they never met?
This is very worrying as it seems you cannot even beg for your life, they want to be in total control (in your own home). So my question is  how do you react, what do you do &  say (or not say) to ensure that you &  your family remain safe throughout the ordeal?
The main aim is to essentially get out of it alive, so how do you get into their mentally and read the signs (obviously because each attacker is different).
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Its hard to fathom what if anything is useful to say in such circumstances, because there is no one type of person who carries out these break-ins, and no one type of motive, etc. Clearly some of these people are truly savage and no more possible to talk out of violence than if one talks to a savage dog preparing to attack. They may be in the mood for violence, and looking for some slight excuse to go ahead with it.
They are probably not feeling hate for YOU specifically, as Mrs K, but as a generic specimen of the Haves while they ( who may be to a greater or lesser extent in part responsible for their own deprivation, as its is not totally always someone else's fault ) feel on behalf of ALL the Have-Nots, they are justified to get revenge.
It seems of some limited use to be passive and obedient and to avoid giving any resistance that will help encourage them to be violent.
What do other readers think ?
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