Paris's questions are good ones, as the answers could be very relevant. Sounds like your life has come to focus on the busines of working and existing, without the element of enjoyment. Look for opportunities to met people with shaed interests, like sports clubs / gyms / hobby clubs, church groups, political groups, even volunteering to work with some charities, whatever. You tend to meet a better class of people in such places, cvompared with clubs and pubs, and you're more likely to actually be able to hear each other talk !