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11 Dec 2012

Jealousy
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Sorry it''s me again. I''m really struggling today. Since Saturday he has been sleeping on the couch. Last night he started sort of talking to me in bits and pieces and when it came to bedtime I said goodnight and went to bed. A few minutes later he stormed into the room and said sarcastically ''thanks for asking me to sleep in the bed and not the couch'' and off to the couch he stormed. I then gave it a few minutes and went and asked him nicely to come to bed. I was then told no and that he is still leaving and ending the relationship. All of this because I asked about his ex phoning and got jealous? According to him it''s all my fault. I did it. Because of my jealousy I made him end the relationship. I said to him that I didn''t want it ended and that I want to sort it out. He said no it''s too late. He said that he has given me 2 chances and will not give me a 3rd. I''m seriously trying to accept that it is over and to get my mind into a place that can handle it without totally breaking down. I know the pain, loneliness, longing and loss that is coming is inevitable and I''m dreading it.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Basically, with each new dispatch from the warfare front, it sounds as though the choice is clear. End the relationship with this emotional infant, or persuade him to join you in couples counselling. The most probably successful way for you to find peace and happiness ? Encourage the kid to leave.
And why on earth are you assuming you have to "break down" when and if he leaves ? You're a strong woman who doesn't need this misery around you. You do NOT have to feel pain, loneliness and loss, and why on earth would you long for these childish temper tantrums ? See a cousnellor to help you break these bad habits, like giving up smoking. It'll be better for your health.
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