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02 Aug 2010

Lonelyness is messing with me
Why is it that lonelyness makes one do crazy things you wouldn''t normally do? How does one get rid of the guilt of doing stupid things and the regrets of doing it? I hate being lonely. 42 and have phone sex for example with strange guys I meet on the internet. I wish so I had somebody to love me and me him. Maybe I am being stupid but I really want it. I have been on my own for 15 years and like my own company. It is when I see couples on TV or in the streets, hear love songs that my mind goes totally crazy on me and it hurts! Why am I like this?
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01 Jan 0001

Guilt is rarely a useful response after one has recognized that whatever one did was indeed wrong - the valuable response is then to go on and work out WHY it was wrong, WHAT to learn from it, and HOW to avoid doing that again.
Loneliness is tough, and our society isn't kind to lonely people. And the media ( songs, TV, etc., sells to us an image of Lerv that few of us achieve and which isn't actually as practical, easy and desirable as they represent it as. At least phone sex, so long as you limit it to that, is safe sex.
Work on developing friendships, at work, at church, through voluntary work, hobbies, whatever, and be open to the possibility of love when it turns up.

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