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21 Jan 2013

Lost of erection
I am a 44 year old male. Me and my girlfriend had sex with her on top of me over the weekend when she suddenly withdraw and ask why I lost it. It was not totally lost but not rock hard anymore. We tried again and another three times it happened that i totally lost my erection after some time - about 5 to 10 min. My girlfriend of a year and a half says it is because she is not doing it for me etc. Needless to say that this had a huge effect after the first failure as my sub-conscious kept fearing for the worse,
My question is why did this happen in the first place. It just feels if I loose control over my ability to pump the blood into the penis or keep it hard. As if there is no feeling or reaction.
Secondly, may my girlfriend be right? I love her and she really turns me on - even after the first time, she is the reason I get a hard-on again later on. But why do I loose it?
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01 Jan 0001

Dear Mr B

It is totally normal for a man to experience some degree if not total erectile weakness from time to time. There are many causes: worry, stress, alcohol, medicines, physical illness and sometimes no cause whatsoever. The problem can become even worse when occasional and normal episodes of softening as you describe occur and leads to an over-reaction. You should be allowed some allowance for this, don’t question yourself too much and try hard to take the pressure off of yourself. If it is a regular occurrence this is a slightly different matter, but still one that usually has a cause and can often be easily remedied.
SASHA. For further information please consult SASHA’S website at www.sexualhealth.qw.co.za/dru. For referral to a professional in your vicinity, please send an email to helpline.sasha@gmail.com
The information provided does not constitute a diagnosis of your condition. You should consult a medical practitioner or other appropriate health care professional for a physical examination, diagnosis and formal advice. Health24 and the expert accept no responsibility or liability for any damage or personal harm you may suffer resulting from making use of this content.
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