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18 Nov 2004

my friends critisize my decision/choice.
I come from a poor family and grew up struggling, now I am engaged. I have pushed up myself to be up where I am today, my fiancee is not as strong as I am and though he comes from a struggling family but better than mine,I am hard worker and a go getter and him had not experinced hardship like me.
my friends do not like him as they say he might pull me down again, they laugh at me why I am marrying someone who is not educated/ does not have money. They say I will have to support him throughout. I know he does not earn as much as I do and I do not mind that.i do not know if i should hide my relatioship to them.what should I do.? i love him so much although things are like this. i do not want to have doupts.
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01 Jan 0001

Hello DD,
We all handle circumstances, such as those of struggling from a poor background, diferently. Some of us learn to be assertive, others learn to be passive. One can understand, perhaps, your friend's concerns, but love isn't about education and certainly isn;t about money. If you and he are happy together, why not just tell those nosy friends to back off ? I fully agree with Kay's response, and those of our other excellent folk, Carol, Mthibana, et al. Maybe those "friends" are showing concern for you, but they're not showing respect for you.
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