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03 Feb 2009

Not Sexual
Is there something wrong with me, im not a sexual person, why not???
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01 Jan 0001

Hello Tellie,

Research shows that a certain percentage of people can be described as asexual, meaning that they experience as a consistent norm hardly any psychological and physical awareness of a sexual desire and the thinking is that this is part of the normal spectrum of human sexuality. So to answer your question whether there is "something wrong" with you it is possible to say possibly not.

Whether how you describe yourself is normal or not is a less important question. What is more important is how you feel about your awareness of yourself as "not a sexual person". If this concerns you it can be of value to explore this further. Keeping in mind that there are a percentage of people who are naturally not sexual or have a limited sexual desire level and have always experienced themselves as such, there is also evidence that factors such as a very conservative family, cultural or religious upbringing, early childhood sexual trauma, other traumatic experiences, early negative sexual experiences, certain underlying mood disorders etc can also result in persons repressing their sexual needs and desires or just not exploring and expanding their sexuality.

Undertaking a counselling process with a sex therapist may be of value. You may come to the conclusion and accept that your experience of your sexuality to date is your natural sexual status or you may uncover certain obstacles to your sexual desire and expression.

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