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03 Mar 2003

re: Daughter dodging bedtime
Yes doc me. I am the newcomer.
My husband spends all day after school with her
He has his own business and are able to do this.
When they are alone she is not bothered with him,
but as soon as I get home after five, she is clinging to him.

I feel this quite distressing for I have told her and I am trying
to show her that I am not taking him away from her.
She sits next to him during supper, watching TV, before bedtime.
She also still (although 8 years old) insist on a bed time story.
And also will cry for it.

Another thing is she will when he is not there talk to me, ask me things,
lie with me on my bed and tell me stories. But as soon as her father is in the
house she will take him one side to ask him things, I asked her about this and
her reply was that she is shy in front of me. Which I feel is not so.
She is trying to get him away from me.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Dear MoThEr,
Sounds like she's a pretty possessive little miss. Well, little girls tend quite easily to get besotted with (a) horses, and (b) dads. Can't your husband play a more decisive role in making sure that she shares her time with you and him, and that she spends more time with both of you together, rather than with one or the other ? Try to make your times with her more rewarding, making it very clear to her how much you enjoy them, how much you love her, and how much you value her stories and views.
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