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10 Aug 2011

Re:Threat or not
I just found out from his sister that yes, he did date her before we were married. When i ask his sister why then he married me not her she ask if I want the truth. I said yes. She said this woman left him because she wanted to go overseas and study and he couldnt take it. I did not go to study. My sister-in-law also said that he did not think she will make a good wife and mother but now she is all that. She is now a big success and I cant even talk to her without feeling silly though she is very nice but everybody always want to know what she does and my husband will always brag about her. He now have a problem with how I talk and our house and everything. I asked him about her and he said she will never be interested in a man like him. Her husband is nice and though there were stories about her having a affair with another proffesor he won''t believe it.
My husband have pictures of her but with other people so I cant acuse him.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

This sounds as though he is treating you badly and selfishly, with no consideration for your feelings or needs. Did he use you as a substitute for the girl who got away, and now wants to switch back because she's now available again ? Though you've been given some suggestions about why he might currently want her - why would she want him ? Maybe he's right that she wouldn't now want a man like him.
Marriage counselling ?
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