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22 Jul 2011

Strange behaviour
I am married for 18 years now, and have a low libido over the last year or so, but oblige hubbie with a quicky whenever he wants, but he seems to be more interested in his own penis now than me, he has started shaving his pubes, or keeps them very short and trimmed, which I have told him I dont like, because its not manly, I notice he has often got an erection while brushing his teeth or shaving, looking at his own bald penis, this is weird for me, and just because I am off sex, I will mostly oblige, because he needs it, but he definately seems more satisfied in himself than me, and when I have discussed this with him, he doesnt know why he likes to be shaved, or why he gets erect looking at himself, but he does tell me he doesnt enjoy, what he calls pity sex, but our low sex life doesnt add up to his shaving, or trimming or his constant erections, I find it a bit gay, to be honest. Any advise pleeeease
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01 Jan 0001

From what you are describing your intimate relationship has changed over time and most probably so has the two of you as individuals. By the sound of it you – as individual but also as a couple could most definitely benefit from the assistance from a psychologist dealing with sexual concerns. It is important to determine what it is that the two of you need as individuals and then finding ways to integrate both’s needs in the relationship.

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