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02 Aug 2010

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How long is it supposed to take for a person to get over the death of a family member on average?
I''m asking this bcos ever since my mom passed on last year July I''m still not back to normal. Since then I feel exhausted, and I get so emotional over little things. I don''t look forward to come to work or to do anything.. I''m just exhausted, I suffer from a constipation quite a lot, I''ve gained weight , I eat lot and shop a lot which makes me feel better for a short period of time, but guilty afterwards.
I don''t know what to do , I thought by now things will be back to normal , all my sisters seems to be fine. I haven''t told anyone about this, except for immidiately after her death I told my husband about the nightmares I used to have, but they have stopped. He actually thinks I''m over it now, but he only complains about the libido that I don''t have anymore. Doctor help me , I want to be a happy person again.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

There are no set rules. SO much depends on the circumstances, the nature of the relationship, and one's own personality. FOr most people it requires at least 9 months to a year, and can be longer. There is a istinction to be made between grief / bereavement and depression, but a depression can arise in such situations, and can respond well to treatment, by medication and/or counselling / therapy.
Do at least consider seeing a counsellor with experience in this field, as you can indeed again become a happy person, and able to remember your mom with happiness, and not only with sadness
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