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22 Jan 2003

I have given a guy a blowjob for the first time recently, and he came in my mouth. He did warn me beforehand that he's cumming, and I kept on sucking and suddenly all the cum was in my throat!! I swallowed and pretended that everything was fine, but I had to fight the nausia constantly, it really didn't taste great. And even worse - he refused to kiss me afterwards!!!! Now I'm afraid of giving him another blow job, because I do not want to swallow again! But won't it hurt his feelings if I tell him I'd rather not swallow, especially since I have swallowed the first time? How do you tell a guy that you want to give him a blowjob, but without swallowing??
It seems that guys love it when their girlfriends swallow!
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01 Jan 0001

Spit or Swallow
It's your decision:
Some like to take come into their mouth, some like to watch it shoot. Both can be very sexy.
If you choose to take it in your mouth, you can swallow or keep a cloth or napkin nearby to spit into.
Know your partner and make good choices. Swallowing during oral sex on an HIV-infected man has been known transmit the virus.

10 Advanced Tips
Take a deep breath before you take his penis into your mouth to relax your throat muscles. This is to prevent gagging if you think his penis is going to touch the back of your throat.
Use your hand around the base of his penis to control how deep he goes into your mouth.
Try swallowing when his penis reaches the back of your throat. It kind of tickles.
You can start a blowjob when your partner's penis is flaccid and stimulate him to erection.
Pubic hairs in your mouth are normal. Just stop for a minute to take them out & then keep going.
Use a finger in your partner's anus to massage his prostate.
Pop an ice cube in your mouth or a mint for extra stimulation.
Run your hands over his inner thighs as your mouth moves on his shaft.
Keep your teeth away from his penis, or very, very lightly rub them against him while sucking.
Not all men come during oral sex. Don't worry if he doesn't - his orgasm is his responsibility, not yours.

Lastely it's also high in calories, so just tell him you are on a diet and would rather get the calories from a chocolate.

Good Luck
Dr Elna Mcintosh
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