In all my relationships past and present I have noticed a terrible pattern. Fisrstly, I continue to attract woman that come from absuive backgrounds which is completely the opposite to mine. I come from a fabulously loving family. Secondly, I give of myself completely in all relationships. I treat the woman like princesses and truly provide my entire heart and everything else I can. Thridly, eventually everything breaks down and I end up feeling a wolrd of pain and struggling for ages to recover. Finally, during the period of recovery my heart hurts so much that although I know I did nothing wrong I become self destructive. I drink way too much, I party all the time, I hook up with girls for one night stand and ultimately end up feeling guilty and sad. I continue this until I hit rock bottom and only then do I start to recover. This always happens with me. How do I stop behaving like this and learn to deal with heartache better? The pain is simply always unbareable for me.