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17 Jan 2013

When does it end
Hi Guys

I once posted my dilemma on the site, of which i got good advices, but however the relationship didnt end.
I will remind you, i am dating a guy who is 4 years younger than me, we had a great relationship until i asked him where are we going, i asked in confidence because at the time our relationship seems like it was going somewhere, i asked where we going, he told me, he is not ready for commitment, as he is busy building up his business, i told him, he is with the wrong woman since i am looking for a relationship that i know where we going, we then went our separate ways, but he called me a day after i was sure we over, time and time again he will call, come over to my house etc, when i realise that i am being played, i just thought its fine, since i dont have someone its ok, i am just having fun, the minute he can see that i am not taking his calls, i am avoiding him, he come back with full force, he''s been bugging me to go see his workshop were he works, i went and to my mind, i was, so what, he tells me how much he makes, he actually tell me all his plans, just like other women, i am weak when i see this guy, and i really want to end things seriously, i dont have the guts to tell him where to get off, i stay days without answering his calls, but i end up answering, what other way can i get this guy off my back, i dont understand what he wants.
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01 Jan 0001

People have different priorities. Men are interested in sex, and maybe in having an attractive lady to join them on social occasions, but probably more often put career / business efforts ahead of emotional commitment. A woman might put a higher priority on getting into a settled relationship with committment leading towards marriage and a long-term relationship.
A couples counsellor might, within a couple of sessions, help you both to understand yourselves and each other better, and to make a wise decision about whether to continue or end this relationship
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