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02 Aug 2007

Why do I end up paying?
Hi guys, I've always had long-term relationships, like a minimum of a year but I always lose interest after a year as I automatically become the "bread winner". When I meet a guy, they seem fine at first: pay for outings, etc. But usually during the third month it's either they "encounter" problems at home and they have to help so and so financially or some lousy reason. I never give a man money but things like him coming over for supper 5 times a week, you know, meat is costly. And because I'm outgoing, when we go out I now have to pay in almost all occasions. And I cannot go out alone as my girlfriends are married and I cannot take them with. When I end relationships because I feel used, people close to me say I am materialistic and should focus on love and disregard "little things in life" like paying for an outing. I'm not rich in any way but I feel that guys these days just want to milk us dry. I'm 31 and maybe too independent?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Can't you explain to them from the start that at best you might share expenses, but cannot afford to support them ? What do other readers think here ?
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