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22 Jan 2003

Why does men have affairs
Women have as many affairs as men and the only reason that it is less known is the fact that they are 10 times more shrewd than men. Just like us men, if a woman has a sexual attraction for a man, wet brookie stuff, whether she is in a relationship or not, the chances are that if he lets her know that he feels the same way, it may take her a bit longer, trying to sort the moral dilemma out, but at the end of the day, it will be what I have heard so many times. I DONT WANT TO DO THIS ! as she, not he, removes the panties. And then goes on to remove his.
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01 Jan 0001

Consider the question of where monogamous marriage comes from, and why "Human beings are polygamous animals,". Actually, only men are polygamous, women are monogamous, where social and economic pressures allow them to be so. But that does not hurt your fundamental argument.

Male power leads to possessions and capital, and men want their own children to inherit their wealth, not the children of other men. In extreme forms this motivation becomes the law of primogeniture, attempting
to keep capital together. Thus, men have a strong motivation to make certain that the woman has sex only with one man.

In addition to this male force, sociobiology suggests that 1000's of years ago, a woman's best strategy for gene survival was to get one man to stay with her, to protect and support her during vulnerable times of late
pregnancy, childbirth, and the early years of their children. Having many men as sexual partners might create rivals among her protectors, and thus weaken the woman's protection.

Additionally, the existence of multiple lovers for a woman does not increase the chance for pregnancy, given the fertility level of most males, nor does it increase the chances for survival of her child.

Thus, women desire to be with only one man if he both loves them and supports them economically. They desire a relationship such that he will not have other sexual partners since he might be drawn away from them to
those partners. Both of these factors, inheritance for men, and sociobiological support and protection for women -- lead to the concept of monogamous marriage.

But, there are other factors that affect the existence of "affairs" or sex work for that matter. In men, sociobiology suggests that a man's best strategy for gene survival is to have sex with as many women as possible. Since any single woman can have only a relatively few children every nine months, having more than one sexual partner increases the potential number of children for men. This may have led to the male desire to be polygamous, 1000's of years ago.

Men and women enjoy sex equally if given the opportunity. While women enjoy sex, men "need" sex, that is, they are more strongly motivated biologically to seek it out, possibly as a result of these sociobiological factors. It is this differential in "need" for sex, perhaps based in biological experience, which, along with society's attempt to maintain monogamous marriage as the only outlet for sex, explains the existence of sex work. If this differential need did not exist, sex could not be sold.

The existence of marriage intensifies the situation. Sex work would exist without marriage, due to women's desire to control sex as a monopoly, just as men desire to control capital and possessions as a monopoly. When
marriage is employed by society to further control and limit the supply of available sex, beyond the control and limitation produced by the female desire for a single partner, the economic basis of sex work is created.

In sum, the drives of female sociobiology work together with the drives toward male inheritance and power to create monogamous marriage. At the same time, male sociobiology works to create a desire for multiple
partners. The interaction of the two forces together provides the economic basis for the existence of sex work.

Dr Elna McIntosh
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