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03 Jun 2011

Younger boyfriend
Im a 35 yrs old woman dating a 30 yr old boyfriend. I look younger than my age, most people think im between 23 -25 yrs old. Its the first time i ever date someone younger than me. Age has never been an issue &  we never discuss it.

Yesterday he introduced me to part of his family, and some older guy picked up that i might be older than him. He asked him, and to my surprise my boyfriend lied &  said im younger than him. when we got home he said i must change my spectacles bcoz they make me look older, and he will be taking me to his parents soon &  doesnt want them asking too many questions, especially his mother.

This made me realise that he is not really comfortable with me being older him &  he doesnt want people to know. I asked him this morning but he is denying having a problem with my age. I''m very hurt by this &  i dont know how to handle it.

Am i over reacting &  being over sensitive? Please advice.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

If he loves you, why is he feeling ashamed that you're a bit older than him ? Discuss this calmly with him. He sounds more immature than 30. Don't challenge him too directly or angrily, but ask him what he assumes his parents and other folks will think when they discover you're slightly older in calendar years.
If a family doesn't worry about a man dating a younger woman, what's wrong with a woman dating a younger man ?
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