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30 Jan 2009

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This is all about love and relationships and I don' t know where else to post my thoughts about this. It about me and this guy.

We can share all our thoughts together but the one thing that bothers me a lot is that he says love makes him absolutely nauseous and the thought of being in love with someone is sickening to him. What does this all mean because he treats me like a girlfriends and neither of us has said how we feel. I dare not say anything because of what he' s told me. What makes me different to other women he has had and called them his girlfriends, yet I am not his girfriend. After nearly a year??? He treats me with so much respect and all that' s in between there is nothing more I could ask for but what makes this different that love is such a bad thing to feel??

He confuses me so much because he will say the most meaningful things and how we have this " connection"  yet love makes him feel sick?? How come? What is the difference?

Does he even know what he' s talking about me or am I only good for one thing. I don' t understand how a person can say such deep things and still say that love is sickening. Why why why???
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Obviously, I have no idea what he means --- only he can explain these comments to you. In a pleasant way, ask more about this unusual response, and how he feels about love in general and you in particular. What does HE think this relationship is, and where does He think it is going ? Do i gather that the idea of "love" makes him feel sick, but sex doesn't nauseate him at all ? And as others imply --- is he fearful of LOVe as a feeling . emotion, or of committment ? Sounds ominously like using
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