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21 Oct 2011

Am I mad ?
I am 55 years old and believe me I am crazy about sex, every aspect of it BUT I dont want to have sex with my husband. After 32 years of verbal and mental abuse I can just not stand him anymore. I will not divorce because of the sake of my children. Tell me is it wrong to have a lover ???
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01 Jan 0001

I am not in a position to say whether it is right or wrong - I will say that there are potentially serious consequences for this decision and you need to consider these before acting. Consequences include the possibility of guilt/confusionin yourself, possible health and safety concerns with a new partner, further conflict with your husband if he finds out, impact on the children if they find out.

Not an easy situation to be in, Tokkie, I wish you well.

Claire – SASHA

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