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06 Mar 2003

Am I normal?

I get turned on by the risking sex with my g/f knowing that we may be watched by others. Quickies are becoming the norm in our garden, at pubs, sports venues.

What do you think?
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01 Jan 0001

I think it is only a matter of time before you will be arrested for public exhibitionism, which by the way in this country is quite a serious crime.
Are you normal? Well, if this "public sex" is becoming the norm, and you can not have sexual function in the bedroom anymore, then it might very well lead to a problem.

You need to change your behaviour so that you can protect yourself (and your partner)from getting arrested, from punishment by the criminal justice system (i.e., a jail sentence), and from any negative consequences from a non-consenting "viewer," as you call them, such as blackmail or the rage of a parent of a minor. See a qualified counselor who will refer you for appropriate treatment. Call SA Sexual Health Assoc. 0860 100 262

I want to emphasize that public exhibitionism is not a casual mode of sexual expression. It is non-consensual and it is illegal. It can be safe in certain, pre-arranged, consensual situations, however, not in the illegal situations you describe.

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