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31 Mar 2004

Guilty about masturbating
Hi all.

I am so sexually frustrated that I feel like crying sometimes. My husband is a wonderful man who does not have an active libido like I do. I have come to understand that some people are different to others with regards to the amount of times they want to have sex, some want it more often than others. I used to 'nag' my husband about it quite often but i don't want to do that anymore as it causes a strain on our marriage. I also do not want to leave my husband, instead I was thinking that it will be a good idea to get a vibrator and pleasure myself instead of waiting for my husband. This way maybe I can get rid of my frustration. But, I can' seem to understand why I feel so guilty about buying a vibrator, does anyone out there think this is a good idea.
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01 Jan 0001

Why not visit the "Women Only" store and get a Pocket Rocket, a quiet and discreet vibrator.

This is what one lady had to say about it:

The Pocket Rocket
The first thing most people notice about the Pocket Rocket is that it does not look like any other vibrator they’ve ever seen. The second thing they notice is that it is generally more expensive than other vibrators they’ve seen. Both of these points can be easily answered.

The Pocket Rocket looks the way it does because it is a clitoral stimulator and is not intended for vaginal insertion. It doesn’t need to look like a penis. One of the great things about that is that not only is it far less threatening to vibrator virgin girls, it is also non-threatening to blokes in whose company girls may wish to play with this little oracle of orgasm. Grown men have been known to feel threatened by powerful, virile looking toys if they think their babes derive greater pleasure from a battery powered beau than their own flesh and blood love missile.

The Pocket Rocket is a powerful toy. It only requires a single AA battery but delivers a whole lot of Voomah! for its size. This is vital as I’ve often found vibrators to be unsatisfactory because they don’t put out the required strength of vibration. Being powerful meant that rubbing the head of the Rocket on my pubic mound was enough to send major shivers down my spine. I also like the little plastic cap on the top of the Rocket because it means that it is easier to clean and the cap has little nobs on it for added rub. With a little practice I found that I was able to have more sustained orgasms with the Pocket Rocket than any other vibrator I have tried.

I found the Pocket Rocket to be discreet and unthreatening and also loads of fun for my partner and I. Not being in the shape of a dildo meant that I could experiment with the toy on my boyfriend. He didn’t feel weird about it. He enjoyed the strange tickling sensation on his skin and when I took it near his penis and scrotum I heard him suck in a breath of anticipation and excitement. He loved the feeling of vibration on his testicles and it was a totally new erotic experience.*

For the first time, I felt that one of my vibrators was not giving my partner a feeling of inadequacy or exclusion but that he really enjoyed the toy and was keen to try it again some time. It somehow opened up the secret of “girls playing with toys on their own” into a game we could both share.

To answer the second point about the Pocket Rocket being a bit more expensive than other vibrators on the market consider this: Would you expect to buy a Posche Boxter for the same price as a Citi Golf?

* It is important to remember to clean your toys properly and to use condoms over the toys for added protection against any opportunistic germs. Also use a water based lubricant for added sensation and comfort.

"Women Only" is a discreet female only adult store, next door to my practice. Call (011) 787 - 1222 for an appointment to view.

Dr Elna Mcintosh
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