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06 May 2004

sex timing
i am a boy i am 19 years old.i want to ask that how i can make my sex timing i mean -|- timing,coz it is sooo disturb i can make sex just for few seconds i am very worry about this plz tell me some thing about my problem(thankx)
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01 Jan 0001

PREMATURE EJACULATION (PE)

What is PE?
Ejaculation that occurs prior to when a man wishes, or too quickly during intercourse to satisfy the partner. When most males ejaculate they tend to quickly lose a usable erection for the simple reason that their discharge has temporary released a state of elevated sexual tension.

What are the causes of PE?
It seems logic that our prehistoric male ancestors were all rapid ejaculators. The Homo Erectus who could couple quickly with his mate and rapidly reached ejaculation was then free to deal with enemy tribesmen and predatory sabre – toothed tigers. The slowpoke got clubbed or eaten. Therefore, only rapid ejaculators survived long enough to sire descendants. Thus, if speed of ejaculation were hereditary, we all should have fast ejaculatory reflexes.

Obviously, the above theory can’t be proven, however, it does contain an element of truth. It is probably “natural” for healthy males to ejaculate quickly. Lasting longer serves no genetic function that we know of.

Lasting is a learned behaviour, like learning to dance. It can prolong and intensify pleasure for a man. Also, many women like to experience orgasm – or have been socially conditioned to enjoy orgasm – when the erect penis is inside them. To reach orgasm this way often requires periods of more or less continuous stimulation buy the penis.

Premature ejaculation is sometimes also caused or aggravated psychological factors such as guilt, fear and performance anxiety.

The first thing that the male must hold in mind is that good sex is unhurried sex. The longer he spends in foreplay prior to his first orgasm, the stronger and more enjoyable that first orgasm will be. The compacting of blood in the sex organs builds slowly, inflating the tissues and sensitising the millions of nerve endings in and around the genitals.

Think of an orgasm like a balloon: the longer you blow air into it, the bigger it gets and the louder the bang when it pops.

Orgasm consists of two stages. One begins with the prostate gland, which encircles the urethra like a tiny donut above the base of the penis, contracts and releases its fluid, along with the contents of the seminal vesicle, into the urethra. To most males this feels like you are going to start a good sneeze, but it’s too late to stop. Stage two is similar to the sneeze itself. The pelvic muscle contracts strongly around the bulb, forcing the fluid out under considerable pressure. Orgasm is what a man feels when all this is happening. He has probably learned for himself that it is possible to ejaculate without having an orgasm, but he may not yet realize that he can also have an orgasm without ejaculating. That’s exactly what you want to learn to do.

The average male in his twenties takes less than three minutes from the time of insertion till he comes. This cheats him of a lot of fun and satisfaction and doubly cheats the unfortunate female he prematurely has an orgasm into.

How do I prevent PE from happening?
The most common treatment of PE is to become more familiar with the feelings and sensations surrounding the time leading up to ejaculation. By learning to become more familiar with these sensations, you can slowly learn to predict when the upcoming ejaculation will occur and gain more control over them. This is known as your point of no return.

If you want to be able to enjoy long periods of intense pleasure without ejaculation, you need to discover your point of no return. Masturbate and concentrate on your feelings. There is a point at which you will be not be able to control your ejaculation anymore. At that point, as hard as you try, you can’t stop yourself from ejaculating. You will ejaculate because ejaculation is a reflex; your brain sends a message through your spinal cord to your sex organs and orders ejaculation.

Once you have successfully discovered your point of no return, do not let your arousal reach this point. You can either change your position or stop moving.

Other techniques you may consider are the “stop and start” and the “squeeze” methods.

The “stop and start” method.
When, during thrusting, you feel yourself getting closer, cease all movement and press the pubic bone (under the pubic hair) against your mate’s pubic bone, thus pushing your penis in all the way. Then both stop moving. (Tell her, “resting time, love”) When the urgency to ejaculate subsides, start thrusting again. Do this several times in a row. It can also be practised solo, using your hand instead of a vagina. A variation of this technique is to make several voluntary twitching movements of the penis while you are resting. This can be done by rapidly flexing and relaxing the muscles that control the flow of urine. Try to identify this muscle contraction next time that you urinate. This muscle is also known as the PC muscle and is described clearly in my Kegel’s exercises section.

The squeeze technique method:
This method, which has been proven highly successful in training men to last longer, has been described in a book by Dr Herbert E. Vendervoort and Rev. Ted Mcilvenna, called “How to last longer”. This technique can also be practised alone during masturbation.

One stimulates himself until he has had a firm erection for a while, squeezes, and repeats the process several times. After several squeezes, one should have more intense ejaculation than usual.

During the no – intercourse period, the couple should explore one another sensually, caressing one another’s bodies with hands and mouth or by any other means, short of intercourse, that are pleasurable for both. If the man’s penis becomes erect while his mate is caressing it, she can, at any time that feels right to her, apply the squeeze to his penis. Preferably this should take place before the man feels himself on the verge of ejaculating. If the women does the squeeze several times at her discretion, it can become part of her lovemaking technique.

It is always advisable to consult with a Sex – therapist that can help and assist you.

For referrals contact SASHA (SA sexual health association) 0860 – 100 - 262
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