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02 Feb 2010

Talking about sex to hubby
I read Female' s response above and can' t imagine phoning my husband and talking to him like this. He hates me calling him at work and discussing anything that may be personal, even something general. I envy you Female.

When we got married I was very open about sex. I loved to touch him and at night would initiate sex. We lived alone and I didn' t think anything of walking out of the bathroom with a towel or lying on my bed naked. My husband would always tell me to stop as there is a place and time for everything. I wasn' t to walk around with a towel or naked as we could get visitors or there could be an emergency.

I guess that put me off sex. I do get horny, but find that it doesn' t happen with him anymore. I have tried to relax and have tried to even fantasize during sex, but I have never had an orgasm with him. We are married 6yrs now.

I once bought a book on sex for us. I don' t know where he hid it. We' re only 34. My son shares a room with us and he is 4 and this also totally puts me off sex.

Help. Advise please.
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01 Jan 0001

Dear KellyM,

The challenge you describe in your relationship with your husband regarding both communicating about your sexual needs and the differences in your values and approach to sexuality cannot be addressed properly in this type of forum.

I strongly recommend you consider consultinga relationship and sex therapist to address this in depth.
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