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14 Dec 2009

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I have a problem with my girlfriend of 5yrs,every time we have sex I come too soon.I have had sex with other people whilst in a relationship with her and I never experience this problem.It' s only with her that this happens.Why????
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01 Jan 0001

Clearly there are two issues here:
(1) your difficulty delaying ejaculation
(2) the fact that you have slept with others
I will address both:
(1) from your comments to other peoples' replies I see that you feel unsure of yourself. I am wondering therefore how confident you are about your knowlege of your body and how it works...whilst it 'works' with other women, is that because you are doing something to delay ejaculation with them, or do you just last longer because you are not as excited? Men have to use delay strategies to let their excitement subside before they can continue - do a search on this site for previous more detailed responses to delaying orgasm, this topic has been discussed many times.
(2) My issue with your sleeping with other women is twofold. Firstly I want to encourage you to think through the 'safe sex' principles here and ensure that you are not putting your 'very exciting' girlfriend at risk of an STI. Secondly, in our society you are seriously jeopardising the relationship because many people struggle to overcome betrayals. Think very carefully about the implications of your actions not only for yourself, but also for this girlfriend that you find so exciting.
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