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12 Nov 2008

confused heart... PLEASE HELP.
hi i am a 17 year old girl, and i have loved this guy that lives 400km away for... 8 months now. i know that many people do not believe that a girl so young can feel love, but in my heart i know this is REAL. we have however decided not to have a relationship until we can be close together. the thing is, i know he does not have anyone else, but it is hard for me. I date guys, trying to forget about him, but the feelings have stayed. I don' t want to use guys who i feel nothing for, but there' s a whole. i miss this guy so much and i try t fill this whole with other people even though i know that it will be unsuccessful. when i am with other guys it feels like i am lying to myself and cheating on him. my parents don' t get that. they want me to date other guys. it feels wrong. i do not want to stop loving him, ever.

I don' t know what to do? please help
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Teen expert
teen expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi there,

long distance relationships can be very difficult to work with, but they are not entirely impossible if both people are as equally committed. What is important about such a relationship though is that there is a plan of working towards being together at a definite point in the future. If that is not possible you have to ask whether it can work is you are never going to be in the same place.

Dating others will notmake you feel better if you are committed to someone else, and you need to be honest with the people you see. Having friends you spend time with is very importan though, as you do need to get on with your life.

If in the near future the two of you can be in the same place and have a relationship, all well and good. If not, then you will need to deal with the difficult questions about where to from here.

Best wishes
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