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25 Jan 2006

how can make him not like me?
hi there

my very kind, sweet, genuine and very very wealthy friend seems to be falling for me. he surprises me with expensive gifts often and sends me huge bunches of the most beautiful flowers while hes overseas!i think hes in love with me but i dont feel the same way. iv told him that im not ready to have a relationship with anyone. im not attracted to him and dont think i will ever want anything more frm him than friendship. how do i let let him down gently without ruining the friendship? how can i make him not like me?this has happened to me on numerous occasions and i find myself severing a lot of friendships with my guy friends becoz they always end up liking me. i hate hurting ppls feelings and breaking boys hearts, how can i avoid this?

plz advise.

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Teen expert
teen expert

01 Jan 0001

There comes a point where honesty is needed over a concern about being liked, especially in the long-term.

Therefore, I would suggest that you are honest with him rather than trying to appear 'nice' when this may lead to you seeming deceitful rather than nice.

So please have the courage of your convictions and go for the honesty route. Whilst he may like you, he may not be heartbroken - he may just be disappointed and then move on to someone who does want to be with him.
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