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07 Sep 2007

stress & depression
My 15 year old daughter is attractive and extremely bright. She is hardworking, excels at school and has strong values. She is not the most popular girl (somewhere in the middle), but she has got a wide circle of friends and a reasonable social life without indulging in unacceptable behaviour. She is an extrovert and seems to have a good sense of self, although she is easily influenced by others. I consider myself lucky to have such a daughter. However, over the past few months she has been quite depressed and tearful at times, with an underlying anger, which I put down to stress (at times her academic and extra-mural workload is very heavy and she is inclined to drive herself very hard) or hormonal fluctuations (PMS). She tells me that she does not know why she feels depressed sometimes, but it seems to come in cycles. Another area of concern is that over the past few months she has completely changed her style of dressing. She had dyed her hair black, and wears only black clothes with chains, spikes, studs etc. She insists that she is only following a fashion trend that she likes. Do I need to be concerned, or is this just a phase which will pass?
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teen expert

01 Jan 0001

With regards to what she is wearing she may just be identifying with people she relates to and for some this means wearing similar clothing.

Sometimes wearing goth-type clothing can be associated with depression - but this is certainly not always the case - and I have known some very happy and fulfilled goths in my time!!

However, if her mood state appears to be deteriorating it is worth asking her if she would like to go and speak to a psychologist so that she can be assessed for depression or have the opportunity to speak about what is bothering her.

Best wishes
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