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21 Oct 2009

Hi Doctor, Thanks in advance for reading my complicated description below..

I have a really hard time with sex. Basically I hate it and could happily live without it. though i want to like it. I' ve only ever had one partner (with whom i' m in a very loving and committed relationship) and our first encounter was awful, with a broken condom and morning after pill. about 2 years ago now. I then went on the pill. I acknowledge that there are a number of psychological issues affecting my attitude to sex, but am also wondering if my oral contraceptive could be in part the culprit. I never get physicallyaroused spontaneously or in the moment (which can maek sex physically painful), whereas before the conciding sexual intercourse starting and pill prescription, i was very easily aroused.

I am on the lowest dose pill and always have been. Could changing my pill help at all? especially if the dosage of the hormones will be increased? Surely it' ll only make it worse? Apart from therapy, i' ve tried using lubricants etc to make it easier physically, but it hasn' t helped.

thanks so much.
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01 Jan 0001

Dear Anon
I think you may have emotional reasons for the low libido and it will probably help if you see a therapist - you probably have negatative connotations with sex unconciously due to the unpleasant experience you had. First see if this will help before changing the pill.
Dr Bets
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