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03 Feb 2004

Should I give it back to him?
I know that this a sex column but it is the most popular column with the most responses. Please can someone give me some advice on something that is bugging me. My ex and I broke up a month ago and yesterday he told me that he is gonna give me his ring nad watch that I bought for him back. He said that it does not mean anything to him anymore. He said that if he gives me the stuff back, then he wants all his rings and chains back. I told him that just because he wants to give the stuff back, then why should I. I told him that the rings still mean something to me and I am not ready to part with them. Besides, he will probably give it away to someone else. But he is willing to give the stuff back to me so I'll keep it for a while and then decide what to do with it. But he says that he still wears the ring and wtach everyday, but then why does he want to give it back. And he got cross when I told him that I do not wear my jewellry anymore. We were engaged, so why must I carry on wearing an engagement ring if I am not engaged. It will hurt me if I waer the rings but I don't wanna give it back. Am I being spiteful or is it ok to feel this way?
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01 Jan 0001

N@S, I think the law is on your side. The jewellery was given to you so now it is your property to do with as you like. Don’t let him bully you into giving it back – you owe him nothing, especially if the break up was from his side. If you were the reason for the ending of the relation ship one might feel that you have a moral obligation to at least give him back the engagement ring. Good luck.
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