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15 Aug 2007

10 year old son lying, stealing etc
My 10 year old son is worrying me. He is constantly lying, not doing his chores and there is always a problem when it comes to homework. He has mastered the "art" of lying to such an extend that I dont know when he is or isnt anymore. He has also stealing at home and school. Little things like change out of my handbag, pens, glue, calculator and now the latest another child's money. We have spoken to him about his problems, punished him even but nothing is working. The problem at school now is that he has no friends anymore, the teachers, I suspect has taken a dislike in him because of the lying, stealing and not doing his homework. He is not a naugthy, loud or unrespectfull chld, he is actually very quite and keaps to himself. I have even been told that he is well mannered.

Can you please help me? I am considering taking him to a Child psycologist but dont know where to look for one in gauteng - East rand
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Do check out this forum's archives, as this is a frequently recurring problem, and you may find some of the responses from other mothers to be useful And from your description, it does sound as thopugh it would be useful for you to take him to see a Child Psychologist or Child Psychiatrist for assessment. I don't have any guide to where shrinks practice, or in what field. Most should be listed in your local phone book ; Lifeline at your local number may have some suggestions ; elsewhere in H24 there's a listing of doctors in prascitce by area ; and the Society of Psychiatrists website ( sasop.co.za ) has an open public section to help you find a psychiatrist near where you are.
Have you tried to discuss this with him, calmly, and not at a time prompted by one of the crises he has been causing ? Has he any explanation for what is going on ? Generally, these are quite common problems which arise when a child feels stressed and unhappy for any reason, so one needs to look broadly for possible reasons. Is he being bullied at school ? Has a new child been born and entered the family ? Is there some other crisis and family tensions ?
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