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25 Jun 2010

13yr old molesting 5yr stepsibling
My son has been living with father and stepmother and has apparently been molesting his stepsister. My xhusband only told me about this today - he has not informed me of this before even though he says that it has occured multiple times and that the whole family has gone for counseling together and seperately specifically for this. Apparently stepmother has threatened divorce if my son continues living with them. He just returned from a holiday with me and I KNOW that nothing funny happened while he was with me - besides us having a great time. His father has gone so far to threaten him that he would be locked up by the police. My son has complained to me multiple times that his father only gives his stepsister attention and never him. I''ve decided to let him come stay with me.

His father wanted to send him to a reform school like Boys Town and wanted my permission. I refused to give permission because that just seems to me like my son is being thrown away for having problems. I will be taking him to a psychologist but what else should I do?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Sounds like a very complex situation, in which the kid might be unhappy or feeling unwanted - which would not, of course, justify molesting another child, IF this is indeed happening. The boy needs to be poperly examined and assessed by a duly skilled child psychologist or child psychiatrist. Did he actually sexually molest the girl ? Or is this her angry acusation because he may have been angry or aggressive with her, as apparently he experiences her as a spoilt brat.
No sensible police would want to lock up a child, and not on the say-so of an angry relative.
Let him see the psychologist, and discuss your options with the shrink after the assessment
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