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05 Apr 2006

15 y/o cutting his arms
I am VERY Concerned about my 15 year old little brother! He's in grade 9. my parents got divorced about 2 years ago - we grew up in a house where my parents fouoght ALL the time and my little brother was exposed to it all his life. even as a child he was depressed and angry. but us 3 kids tried to stick together thru it all. my brother moved to a new school this year becos the previous one was bad news. so he changed to a CHRISTIAN COLLEGE but just this week he's dropped out!!
my parents - during their divorce kept getting back together and splitting up. so my mom just recently moved out into a her own place. my 2 brothers live with my dad. (i'm married and live with my hubby and baby - 22y/o)
We are SO worried about my younger brother - he is very dark and has all these wierd ways about him - and you can see he's sad and angry most days. he is EXTREMLY quiet and hardly speaks a word. i try to talk to him and so does my other brother but he just says everything's fine or whatever!
it's impossible to get thru to him! my dad is not really an emotional person so he cant show care or love towards him- but he is concerned.
i know my brother would not talk to anyone - like a shrink or doctor. he has refused before.
tonight when i saw him he has huge cuts on his arms - both front and back - it looks terrible. when i asked him what it was he jus said nothing...
i am so worried cos he stays home alone everyday -
my nerves are finished! i don't know who to talk to or what to say or do for him and i just don't want to say; 'now it's too late'
please help me!!
he needs help but what can i do?????? i'm sure he's looking for attention somewhere and not getting it that's why he does this!
does that make sense??
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01 Jan 0001

Hello sister,
Do check back in the archives of this forum for all our previous discussions of cutting and self-mutilation. It's far more common than most people realize. Now, for all the reasons you mention ( plus being a teenager ) your brother sounds like a troubled lad, who would benefit from personal counselling, to work on his various concerns. He needs to be persuaded to see a shrink --- and even if your dad isn't himself good at being emotionally supportive, he should help to persuade the boy to do this.
As SHM says, also, and here again you and your dad could work on this, finding other things he can enjoyably do with his time, including better exercise, sports, hobbies, etc., would help.
The overlap with eating disorders is common.
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