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12 Jul 2010

6yr old
Our 6yr old has a few behaivour concerns. She tends to do things even though I have asked her not to. When I confront her about something she sometimes screams at me and always starts a crying/screaming fit (no tears). We use the naughty corner for punishment which seems to work but she will still do things that she knows is wrong. Last night she asked my husband something and after he answered her she walked away and said " you liar" . She often hides things away. She gets lots of attention, hugs and kisses and is doing brilliantly at school. Has a wonderful appetite and sleeps well. Her behaivour just does not seem right for age. Please can you advise?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Kids are little imperialists in a way - they have a recurrent need to explore and establish boundaries, between what is approved of, what they can get away with, and what is forbidden.
Maria is right that this can occur at various ages, and needs to be managed as usual by clear rules about important things, with clear and proportionate consequences for breaking the rules. I would make it clear that the screaming tantrums are unpleasant but will never be allowed to bring her any rewards, and will be generally ignored. Consistency is vital, because if it seems anything is worth chancing as the results are unpredictable, then chances will be taken.
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