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15 Jul 2005

A fling with a married man now serious..
Guys please help I'm 21yrs and going out with a 38yrs married guy and it has been two years now. My boyfriend passed away 6 months ago from AIDS and my married boyfriend knows that I have infected him with AIDS. He is now having problems with his wife and they want to divorce and if that happens he said he is going to move in with me and that could lead to marriage.

I'm not yet ready to be in a commited relationship especially with someone his age, I just wanted to have fun with him and that is it. This thing is now difficult cause to tell the truth I'm no longer interested in him but just because I have infected him I told myself that I will stick by him.
I just want to be a mistress and have someone who is single and my age as a partner not him but now I have messed up his life and he says I must stick by him until one of us gets sick and passes away.

Guys I made a big mistake and this is confusing me each and everyday I just need advice from someone who doesn't know me and who won't judge me
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

is it your ambition to promote the AIDS epidemic by any means you can ? How can you hope to behave in the way you describe, and not expect people to "judge" you ? If you are infecting others with HIV/AIDs and are infected yourself, you're clearly not capable of a committed relationship with anyone, not even yourself.
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