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21 Jul 2010

absent father effects
ok...i just broke up with my baby''s father because he has been continously cheating on me, i took him back over and over, but he still continued, so i broke it off, i was tired of the continous fights over this, and the health risks involved. i was not happy anymore, i was miserable, i thought i was going crazy...but was my decision good for our baby, some people advised me that i shud stay on, have my own affairs, be happy and keep the " family"  together, but this is not me, i hate cheating. so i quit, i gave up. i grew up in a loving family environment with both parents. will not having a close relationship with the father affect the baby?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Sounds like you have been realistic and sensible. Whether anyone cheats just once, guys who cheat repeatedly will continue to do so. Those who eventually stop are as rare as spotless leopards. Of course the health risks to you, as well as the hurt, were unacceptable.
Growing in a loving family with two consistent and loving parents is great. But this guy made that absolutely impossible. He doesn't sound like the sort of guy with whom the baby could have had a consistent or beneficial relationship. The child will have lost nothing by the moving out of someone not committed to the relationship with her mother, nor committed to consistent close loving care for his child. He has already deprived her of that, so his presence could add very little if anything.
Good fathering can be good for a kid ; bad fathering, or a guy who makes the mother miserable, is of no value whatever
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