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10 Apr 2006

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Hi guys , i need advice this morning.I am in a same sex relationship.For a few months my girlfriend and i arent seeing eye to eye.Today i got a phone bill where she has been calling this guy 1 in the morning after i speak to her at about 11pm.They spoke for about 4o mins and wen i asked her if she has used that sim she said no she didnt. THis is not the first time this has been happening.When i confront her about her actions she always gets defensive about the whole situation.When i got the bill i immediately left work and went to her , she just said they spoke nonsense.You know what hurts the most is that when i ask her to speak to me she never has anything to say to me she calls me and speaks for 5mins and says she is going to sleep , then i get this on the bill.I love her with all my heart but i dont know if i can handle the dishonesty from her anymore.I just feel like i can put an end to my life really i hate hurting i hate hurting other people but how can one do that unto someone else Their partner she says she loves me i just cant understand why this is happening to me really.I dont know how to handle the pain anymore this morning i spoke to her i just started crying without a stop , she tells me that she will speak to anyone anytime of the day.I cant take it anymore really i cant i give her everything that she needs love especially but i am not getting anything in return i feel like i am a burden to her a nuisance to her that is how i feel.While i am writing this you wouldnt knw how much my tears wants to come out but because i get clients in and out of my office i cant express the way i feel.I just feel that nothing i do is right.I dont even feel like living anymore.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

It does sound really suspicious, doesn't it ? The defensiveness, the initial lie, the daft explanation ? Don't for a moment think of ending your own life --- why should you be punished, for someone else's wrong-doing ? And why should you be prevented from forming later, better and honest relationships ? It is not your fault, so don't blame yourself. You deserve more
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