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07 Apr 2006

Afraid of child being traumatised
I have been divorced for over 2 yrs now, the settlment includes that my 4-turning 5 yr old son visits his father once a month. I have to take him halfway (the ex lives 500km's away) and then he pick's him up - every single month . He is now moving to Port Elizabeth . That means he will be over 1000 km's away and still expects me to take my son halfway and back each month, or he wants him to board an airplane ALONE! My child will be terrified - he has never even seen an airplane from close by....... I also feel that he is beig uprooted from his creche . Can this pose as a tramatic event to him (being all alone on a plane?)Will a court change this as a result of my child being traumatised?
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Kate's comment is useful --- I have also noticed cabin staff handling kids very well. Also, maybe check with your lawyer --- a settlement that made sense ( although onerous ) when he lived 500 km from you ( was that where he was living when the settlement was made ? ) may not need to remain binding when he moves much further away. This would impose an unreasonable burden, financial and otherwise, on you. I don't think this would be a traumatic experience for the child, especially if you prepared him well, to look forward to it as a treat and a special adenture. I think the court would look at the reasonableness or otherwise of the new burden this places on you, and the child's reactions to this ( not necessarily trauma )
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