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13 Dec 2005

After Divorce
Why is it that when you live with someone you call your husband for 7 years, you are so unhappy, miserable, depressed ..... and once you leave the person- divorce. then you find happiness, you become so happy and move on with life.

Then all of a sudden the person whom you loved so much for years, leaving with him under abusive conditions is now all os a sudden very apologetic, wainting ones forgiveness, saying he has learned that mistreating a wife is not good after all, that he now knows that I am the one for him and promises that he will treat me much better that before.

would you follow you heart nad forgivr him and the expense of maybe being miserable again, or just let go and continue leaving the new life.

This decision is so difficult more so that everytime my kids come back from weekend with himthe way they are I can see they miss being with the two of us together. I am heartbroken because of them.

DO MEN REALLY CHANGE FOR THE BETTER AFTER BEING DIVORCED.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Abusers usually play apologetic to get back their victim, because they miss the games they used to play. They usually make empty promises. I would be extremely cautious about ever taking an abuser back, unless, maybe, they have completed a course of therapy with a good counsellor, to deal with their anusing habits. Mostly the "other chances" don't work out
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