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07 Jan 2005

Aggressiveness
I am a very aggressive person, just loose it when somebody makes me angry, especially my husband. We recently had a fight and he packed up and left me. We have two Kids. I tried to convince him that I will get help and we can be happy again depending on his support. However he says he wants to start a new life. I'm not sure whether he has been planning to leave me or is it because we always fight. Now I'm not sure whether I want to hold on or just let go.
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

Well, gugu, firstly avoid the Anger Management courses that get offered around --- if you've read our posts of the last day or two, you'll notice we have been afflicted by one of the twerps who runs such courses, who is flinging out tsunamis of personal anger, and obviously they've never taken their own advice.
On the issue of your own problems with anger, see a good local shrink for a proper assessment, and then discuss treatment options --- it can be helped. But as the mariage seems to have become rocky, too, try to talk him into joining you in marriage counselling ( eg through FAMSA) which would benefit both of you ). It's always wise to try this route before deciding whether to give up on a relationship
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