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30 Jun 2005

Am I a bad mother?
I guess I am dealing with an issue here and not a real problem. Last month I took my baby to a gp. He didn't even thoroughly exam the child. He told me the child had a cold. Three days later the child didn't respond and I took him to his padiatriacian. He was diagnose with phenomia and was rushed to hospital. Dr told me by day 5 that he doesn't think that he will pull him through. By Gods Grace oour prayers was answered and my child was healed. I keep blaming myself that I should have taken better care seeing that this is my second child. Daycare mother phoned me just now said that she suspects that the child is sick again. I am actually paralized with fear. Thoughts running about the last incident. I just want to grab my car keys and instead of fetching him drove off as far from my problem as possible.

Maybe I am just paranoid. Maybe I should take a deep breath and and phone the dr for an appointment. Is it normal to feel this way.? To think I can run away from this problem and that it will stay away?. Tanx anyway
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CyberShrink
cybershrink

01 Jan 0001

lerita, I'm sur you're not a bad mother --- maybe it seems odd, but bad mothers rarely if ever seem to worry about whether they are a bad mother. Your GP was negligent, from the sopund of it, and surely at least careless --- that wasn't your fault. I am so pleased to hear that he pulled through. You took good care ; the GP let you down, and it sounds as though the other docs did a good job.
If the child is sick again, take him back to the paediatrician, and consider getting a different GP. It's normal to feel like running away from a srious problem, but a wise woman like you knows that this can't solve the problem, so you will face it, take him to see a good doctor, and get this sorted out. Please post a fresh message in a day or so and let us know what happened this time.
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